tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post6348260309721614251..comments2023-06-26T07:50:08.502-04:00Comments on Ultra Dave: A QuandaryUltra Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07972162933530146298noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post-32547157187617674382009-06-01T18:22:23.011-04:002009-06-01T18:22:23.011-04:00Another ditto from me, Dave. Friendship is someth...Another ditto from me, Dave. Friendship is something can that only be offered, not demanded. <br /><br />In my experience, I have found it important to learn when to let go with grace, and also when to take *no* for an answer - especially when it's not said in so many words.<br /><br />I'm not a mind reader, but I can understand why a *divorced* straight man of a certain insecure type might feelRuss Manleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05722260145543178087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post-13955694418941638822009-05-31T14:47:14.393-04:002009-05-31T14:47:14.393-04:00One things that appears to be implied (but I'm not...One things that appears to be implied (but I'm not sure) is that you are not the only one being shut out from his life. If that is true, then, as we say, the trouble is the transmitter not the receiver. He may be dealing with something that he is unwilling or unable to share (even as much as you might like to help him bear that burden). I go with some of the others: give him some space and Lemuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15397995062492531171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post-70666844008683734452009-05-31T09:02:19.091-04:002009-05-31T09:02:19.091-04:00Dave....people don't suddenly change their habits ...Dave....people don't suddenly change their habits for no reason as there is usual some type of life changing intervention such as a new relationship, death, etc. I would agree with the three previous postings and just give him some time to sort through whatever is challenging him right now. I would say in about six weeks, make one more attempt and move on....JoeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post-59684946591267530382009-05-31T08:27:51.311-04:002009-05-31T08:27:51.311-04:00I'll be brief: Ditto.I'll be brief: Ditto.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post-60886074714855195302009-05-30T18:53:53.280-04:002009-05-30T18:53:53.280-04:00You've already got some good advice here, so I'll ...You've already got some good advice here, so I'll just add my support.Javahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377033663576614925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post-52484300940027267392009-05-30T10:29:01.083-04:002009-05-30T10:29:01.083-04:00I would say just to back off and give him space. ...I would say just to back off and give him space. There might be stuff going on in his life and this is how he deals with it, by cutting off others and distancing himself. So yes you tried and gave it your best shot so move on, be the bigger man say nothing and find a new friend(s)T.E.W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05301748977082343730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287199914177543289.post-82186878063609434342009-05-30T10:04:06.434-04:002009-05-30T10:04:06.434-04:00Miss Manners would point out his aloof 'I've been ...Miss Manners would point out his aloof 'I've been busy' is a more polite way of saying "Look I don't want to see you anymore". <br />Although it hurts, it is a sign to drop him. You don't need an explanation from him. <br /><br />Move on.Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.com