
Something has been bothering me lately, so I'm gonna rant a little.
I'm a person who takes friendships seriously. If I have met you or chatted, learned something about you, we have moved beyond the acquaintance phase and into the friend phase. If I consider someone a friend whether they reciprocate as strongly or not, there isn't anything I wouldn't do for that person if I can. Midnight calls for a shoulder to cry on, fine. A call to bail you out of jail, sure. Need help moving or planning a party, no problem. I'm your friend and I'm there for you. I've have slowly come to realize or maybe accept, that others do not hold this view. Oddly enough, while I freely give of myself, my time and occasionally my money to someone I consider a friend, not all subscribe to this. I understand that and rarely make the demands on a friend that I would so willingly answer. I hold myself to higher standards in every area if my life that most do not. The disturbing thing to me is this. Facebook. Whether it is a friend request unanswered or ignored by someone who in person I thought was in good rapport, to being deleted as a friend without cause or notification, to just outright rudeness from someone you have worked with, hung out with, and chatted with. To me these things are unacceptable in a civilized society and certainly something one would not do to a friend. It does make me question their definition of friend as well as my own. Maybe I'm too giving, too open, too generous, too caring and they feel inadequate. I'm not sure what the problem is or why it exist. If someone sends me a friend request, I accept it period. I sort them accordingly. I never deny friendship opportunities. And there is nothing short of murdering me, that would cause me to unfriend a person either on Facebook or in real life. I've lived it all before and forgive everything. But this type of action really rubs me the wrong way. So much so, that if there were a gay mafia, I'd be submitting my shitlist. So dear readers, am I the problem or has friendship somehow morphed into something irreverent and disposable?