Friday, June 11, 2010

Just Wondering



Any tips on how to go about dating someone without scaring the crap out of them? I was in a relationship for 10 years, but that was over 10 years ago. Since then, I've gone out with maybe 5 people total, only two of them I saw more than once and that was over 5 years ago. I'm a little rusty. Could use a little help! Thanks!

5 comments:

Sean said...

I wish I could help but am in a similar boat myself.

Be honest, be yourself and trust your instincts.

Remember, it's his 1st date too and he will have the same feelings as you.

anne marie in philly said...

(1) - no pushy anxious behavior (like "I have to see you again or I will just DIE!")

(2) - no promises, no demands

(3) - do fun stuff you BOTH enjoy

(4) - pay your share (meals, movie tix, etc.)

(5) - no sex on the first date...period!

(6) - talk and talk and talk with each other...good eye contact is a must.

(7) - do NOT let the other person walk all over you!

ask me how I know all this...

Cubby said...

I deleted my first response. I am wholly unqualified to answer this.

Ultra Dave said...

Well Ann Marie already screwed up on #5! we were in the bedroom less than 5 minutes of me entering his apartment!

Russ Manley said...

Ya know Dave for a long time when I was younger I thought it was counter-productive to go straight to sex. But all my dates kept jumping my bones and so good intentions always went straight out the window.

Finally I learned to live with the fact that this is just how we are as men. And to appreciate that you may not ever see the guy again - or want to - but there is something to be said for a good screw in the afternoon, wherever you find it. Grin.

Especially when you're on the shady side of 50 my friend. Frown.

As to your original question - hell if I know bud, I have to recuse myself on this one too, considering my sorry record over the years. Every once in a very great while ya get supremely lucky, and that's beautiful, but how you get there I have no fucking clue: stuff happens. Or not. More often not.

All I can tell ya is what scares other guys off is the same things that scare you: demands and desperation. Think that over and come up with your own strategy is my best advice pardner.

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