Any tips on how to go about dating someone without scaring the crap out of them? I was in a relationship for 10 years, but that was over 10 years ago. Since then, I've gone out with maybe 5 people total, only two of them I saw more than once and that was over 5 years ago. I'm a little rusty. Could use a little help! Thanks!
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I wish I could help but am in a similar boat myself.
Be honest, be yourself and trust your instincts.
Remember, it's his 1st date too and he will have the same feelings as you.
(1) - no pushy anxious behavior (like "I have to see you again or I will just DIE!")
(2) - no promises, no demands
(3) - do fun stuff you BOTH enjoy
(4) - pay your share (meals, movie tix, etc.)
(5) - no sex on the first date...period!
(6) - talk and talk and talk with each other...good eye contact is a must.
(7) - do NOT let the other person walk all over you!
ask me how I know all this...
I deleted my first response. I am wholly unqualified to answer this.
Well Ann Marie already screwed up on #5! we were in the bedroom less than 5 minutes of me entering his apartment!
Ya know Dave for a long time when I was younger I thought it was counter-productive to go straight to sex. But all my dates kept jumping my bones and so good intentions always went straight out the window.
Finally I learned to live with the fact that this is just how we are as men. And to appreciate that you may not ever see the guy again - or want to - but there is something to be said for a good screw in the afternoon, wherever you find it. Grin.
Especially when you're on the shady side of 50 my friend. Frown.
As to your original question - hell if I know bud, I have to recuse myself on this one too, considering my sorry record over the years. Every once in a very great while ya get supremely lucky, and that's beautiful, but how you get there I have no fucking clue: stuff happens. Or not. More often not.
All I can tell ya is what scares other guys off is the same things that scare you: demands and desperation. Think that over and come up with your own strategy is my best advice pardner.
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