Friday, March 26, 2010


I see the approach of another birthday, not too far in the distance. I don't dread it or fear it. It's more like apathy. Like, "Oh, it's you again." I look back at my life and wonder what could I have done differently that would have put me in different circumstances. I say "different" not "better" because that isn't guaranteed. I try not to dwell on it much. I can't change the past and the future is still unknown. It's a waste of time and energy to do so. I wonder if I had stayed in college the first go round and became the Architect I had always dreamt of being how would it have impacted my life? I don't believe I would have made the friends I did. I would have been in a different social circle. That is hard to imagine. I wouldn't have met my last ex. I probably wouldn't have ever moved to Florida, though I may have had to move elsewhere for career opportunities. That kinda leads me back to where I am now. I would be moving back here to look after my parents as they age. I would most likely be giving up a career and starting fresh in this economy regardless. Chances are, maybe even leaving friends and a partner behind to do it. So as I see it, my life could have been about the same as it now. Maybe a different place to live or car to drive, and maybe more money in the bank, but I would still most likely be without the same things I currently am. Maybe it is circular logic. Maybe wishful thinking. Maybe finally reaching the middle of middle age has taught me something. No matter what you do, you will always be where you need to be, when you need to be there. Life seems to have it's own agenda. There are certain things you are meant to do in your life time and it will conspire to make it happen, regardless of your plans or timetables. My only wish for the coming year is to wrap up everything going on in my life and get started truly living it once again. As for my impending birthday wish this year, winning the lottery would be a really cool birthday gift.


John said...

You're right, it all comes out pretty much the same! Still, you made it here and that's something to celebrate!

Ray's Cowboy said...

Dave when it comes to birthday think this way..."I am like a bottle of wine, every year I get better with age and more expensive"

This is my thought on like.

Anonymous said...

Dave, you must of been running around in my thoughts the other day. I am facing my 49th birthday here soon. My mind went through some of the same things. You were able to express it words. Thanks for sharing.

anne marie in philly said...

after you pass 50, you begin to LIVE!

now at 55, I don't give a fat rat's ass what anybody thinks...I do my own thing! I also balance that with my sense of responsibility for my job and cats and home.

post 50 rules!

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