Friday, January 8, 2010

Da Bomb


Let me break it down for you, my lunch date didn't show up.
He had said he would call to confirm, he did not. He texted and said he would call me later, he did not. I get ready and drive to McDonald's to meet him, twenty minutes early. At ten minutes till 2pm, I left a message that I was there waiting. He texted back a few minutes later saying he is stuck with his sister and can he call me later this evening. I text back a simple question, "So you're not coming?" Last I've heard from him. Now, in my rose colored world, if I saw that I would not be able to meet with someone, I would have let them know and rescheduled. In my world that is polite and respectful. If he can text me these other messages, could he have not just as easily text that he couldn't make it ? I'm not pissed or entirely upset. His car is in the shop and is having to get transportation where he can. (His car should be ready this evening around 5pm.) I understand that. Been there before myself. However, I am disappointed he thought so little of me or of us meeting that he didn't bother to inform me of not being able to keep it. I have a problem with that. It comes across as rude and disrespectful, two things I don't tolerate well. I will cut him some slack this time, should he call to reschedule something. I will tell him how I feel about that and go from there. I still treated myself to a value meal since I was there anyway and then continued on with my day.

8 comments:

Russ Manley said...

I wouldn't give the motherfucker the time of day after that.

Lunch at micky D's is the simplest thing in the world to do. If he was broke down and stranded on the highway, or carrying someone to the ER, he could have told you.

But no, he's a liar and a game-player. If I was you, I'd scratch that one clean off my list.

If you're softer hearted than me, you could give him one and only one more try. But don't you dare pick up the phone and call him. And if he calls, don't you be the one to suggest in the slightest way another get together. Just sit back, play it cool, and find out what he's really all about.

I'm so sorry Dave. I was really, really hoping good things for ya today bud. Better luck next time.

Ultra Dave said...

Thanks Russ. Them the breaks...

Java said...

There's that thing about kissing a lot of frogs, or something like that. Boo-hiss to him. The wrong one is worse than no one, and other pithy sayings that are supposed to make you feel better. I like your attitude.

Larry Ohio said...

"He had said he would call to confirm, he did not." If he never even confirmed the lunch date, why did you go? In my book, no confirmation = no date.

It's not like he confirmed the date then didn't show up. That would be rude. But you said he never confirmed, so what's the problem? Maybe I didn't read your post right...

I think you should give him another try, and this time make sure you're both on the same page.

Ultra Dave said...

Most likely if he calls I again, I will. If I set a time, date and place and it is agreed, I need no confirmation that we just agreed to something.That was what he said and didn't do. The fact that he texted several times let's me know he knew he was suppose to be there at that time and was not. So why couldn't he just text and say he couldn't make it knowing that we agreed and I had heard no different from him?

anne marie in philly said...

rude SOB...nope, would not give this person another chance.

time is valuable...you cannot get it back. AND you are worth so much more and deserve better!

Peter said...

Dave, I know you looked forward to this, but he's chicken. Don't give him a second change. [You've been hurt before by people like that!]

Lemuel said...

I've been in that place so many times before! Waiting for someone who confirmed but never showed.

His first faux pas in my book was not replying - confirm or not confirm.

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